Dating after double mastectomy
Dating after double mastectomy
I’m told women in this situation can have problems with neck pain, shoulder pain and even balance if they don’t wear a prosthetic breast. I want to make jokes about someone stealing my breasts while I slept but I suspect I’m the only one that will find that even remotely amusing. I decided to spend this week going through my wardrobe.It’s less of an issue if you’re naturally small breasted but mine were large. I have seromas, a build up of fluid under the skin, on both sides so best to stick with singlets for now. Yes, I’ve only been home from hospital for a week and I knew this was going to be upsetting, but my thinking was that this was a task best done early and quickly. What I didn’t want was months of standing in front of my wardrobe, choosing something to wear and then putting it on to find it looked terrible.
Of course, before the surgery, no one mentions how truly painful the recovery will be, as a mastectomy truly is an amputation, although I'm not sure a warning would have helped.There were a few things that I knew she’d wanted since I’d bought them.She was so excited to get the floral cardigan that looks wonderful with her curves but odd with my lack of them.Woman C: I was scared beyond belief but also much more desperate to have it cut out.Once I knew there was a deadly tumor spreading rapidly in my chest I wanted it out immediately.It turns out that a lot of things I can’t wear on their own work just fine with a singlet underneath. There’s now a lot of great Youtube videos on tying scarves in all kinds of ways.
Here’s one of my favourites: The one about half way through called ‘the magic trick’ is a personal favourite.My pathology tells me they were close to a kilo each. I have the contact details of a woman that will come to my home and fit me with artificial breasts and bras to go with them. I pulled whole sections out and dumped it all on the bed.Of course, having had both removed means I now have the option. It’s not a question I ever imagined having to ask myself. I also have the address of a shop in the nearest major city. The Breast Cancer Network Australia sent me a bra and some ‘soft form’ inserts to wear while I’m recovering. They remind me of embarrassing performances by footballers at end of year functions where dressing up as women is something of a tradition. It took me a couple of days and only a few tears to get through it all. At 52, I don’t have a lot of low cut or revealing clothing but the first thing to go was anything that clearly needed breasts.It was a single mastectomy on my right side with a small lumpectomy on my left side. I wasn't scared of surgery: I was very sad my breasts I had always known were going to be gone.Woman A: I knew for about three months I was going to have surgery. The sadness for my natural breasts was hard to cope with in the few days before surgery.Same goes for gypsy skirts that hang to my mid calf and have a bit of gathering at the waist. On the bright side I think I’m going to be able to wear shorter, straight skirts that show off my legs. One of my favourite cardigans almost went out until my husband suggested changing the way I wear it.