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I recently came across a Facebook post asking Black people what they thought of a cartoon image depicting a Black woman in a relationship with a white man. Even though I, personally, generally don't care about Black people dating outside of the race, I, as a Black women, ABSOLUTELY saw where many of those people were coming from.Initially, I thought it weird that someone would even ask a question like that, but after sifting through the comments, and I mean COMMENTS, it was clear that many people really did have thought-out and serious opinions about it. I imagine that if you were to ask a random Black person what they thought about interracial relationships in general, they’d say they were indifferent, but I think we’ve all noticed the *humpf* Black women often make when they come across a Black man in a relationship with a woman outside of his race.
She has expressed that she and her husband often receive hateful comments coming from both the Black and white communities but has specifically been called a whore from those in the Black community. It was also quite common for the Negro bed wench to be a lighter skinned or mixed woman.
I myself have heard a great many times from Black men especially some variation of the statement, "I want a daughter with good hair," meaning of course,"I refuse to date a Black woman, because I don't want my daughter to have hair line mine." Statements like that also include the fact that many Black men want lighter skinned children because they perceive dark skin as unattractive.
Kodak Black semi-recently made a comment on an Instagram live stream that he didn't like Black girls, in a sexual way.
"Because white women were taboo for black men for centuries in this country to the extent that black men could be lynched for the appearance of involvement with white women, access to white women may be more alluring for black men now."Another question that comes up is, "does he really love her?
" Many Black women can't help to think feel as though a great number of Black men choose to date outside of his race for superficial reasons.
I can tell you that in this case, the Black woman *humpf* can absolutely be translated to "I wonder how he feels about his own mother."Now, of course, none of this is to say that you can tell the intent of a relationship from the outside because you can't.
And we all know what they say about those who make assumptions.
Recently, I have even seen her described online as a bed wench and a mule. S, the Negro bed wench was a Black woman on a plantation whose primary function was to sleep with the white massa. And because of the favorability she received, this woman would generally feel superior to the other women on the plantation.
Often times, in exchange for her sexual acts, the massa would treat her more favorably than the other female slaves--exemption from working in the fields, for example. Today, the term is generally used to describe behaviors one would associate with that of a female “Uncle Tom.” And the "act" of being a Black woman in a relationship with a white man is seen as something someone complicit in the expansion of white supremacy would do.
We see it everyday, but I think it happens to affect Black women and Black men differently.
There are many Black men out there who actually feel Black women are, and forgive me for being so blunt, generally ugly.
So when a Black women ends up with a white man, we are often looked at as not being able to "handle" the Black man, who is himself looked at as the strongest of any group of people.