Early stages of dating a guy
Early stages of dating a guy
I don’t know, maybe it was a really interesting episode of Corrie that night, but it was a texting faux pas that automatically put me off said soap fan.
So when it’s been 10 hours and you haven’t gotten a reply to his text, you let it go.When it’s Thursday night and he hasn’t called to see you on Saturday, you let it go. You never have more leverage over a man than when he’s CHOSEN you of his own accord, when he’s EMOTIONALLY INVESTED in you because he FEELS so happy every time he’s around you.It’s three weeks into dating and his profile’s up, you let it go. Wouldn’t it make more sense to call him, text him, and see him so he doesn’t lose interest in you? All you do when you “nudge” a man to take action is let him know that he’s in control, you’re desperate and needy, and that you don’t trust that he knows what’s good for him. And if he’s receiving texts that say, “Where are you?!Which is why, when Maureen and Cassie breathlessly asked me to tell them what to do next, the answer couldn’t be more simple: NOTHING!!!“Doing something” means you’re trying to keep your emotional tether alive, to nudge him into calling you, seeing you, committing to you.Once we got out on the date though, I swiftly realized that this wasn’t for me.
I don’t know why, maybe it was because he had a pair of those pretend glasses on, which automatically signaled to me that he was a douchebag.
BUT whilst I may be quite clearly terrible at relationships, I consider myself to know a thing or two about the dating game, – specifically that early stage of dating after you first meet, where you’re still texting and trying to suss each other out. By now, we all know about the basics of dating texting etiquette, whether you like to admit you indulge in these childish games or not.
Based on my years of sad experience after sad experience, I have compiled this list of Dos and Don’ts to help us all tread through the waters of the dating ocean without accidentally thrusting our foot into the jaws of a piranha. For example, if they leave it an hour before texting back, you leave it an hour and a half before texting back.
Secondly, you want to come across as a sociable person so you exaggerate your daily activities slightly.
You “just went out for a few drinks after work” when actually you popped to the Tesco Extra to get a bottle of Fanta, and you’ve just had “a chilled night with a couple of mates and a takeaway” when actually that chilled night was spent completely by yourself, eating Curly Fries and watching Here Comes Honey Boo Boo marathons.
My advice here is: learn to recognise the signals that the person no longer wants to be there. There is nothing more unattractive than somebody who comes on too strong and makes it too clear that they like you loads, like mega loads. This man was ex-army and now a personal trainer at my gym, so you would think he’d be the strong silent type. After just a day or two of the initial texting game, he started talking about how much he was looking forward to our date. But then a couple of days before the date, he text a phrase that will forever haunt my dating memories: “Yeah, I’ve had a bit of a shit day. Ah, the old adage is true: treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em wrapped in the carpet.