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‘I was too self-conscious to show my back,’ says Becky.‘And I didn’t want people to pre-judge me.’ Becky also experienced difficulties with the ‘reveal’ of her disability, with potential dates ghosting her once they learned she uses a wheelchair. But then as soon as I would tell them they would just start ghosting me and disappear. One person that I really felt a connection with told me that they liked me but couldn’t see themselves “behind a wheelchair”.’ When Becky started to use photos where her back was visible, the number of matches she received ‘dropped dramatically’, and she began to receive awful comments such as ‘but can you still have sex?
‘I felt very exposed and when I started to think that these photos would be seen by all my teachers and classmates that really scared me.
The project initially started as a way for Becky to explore dating with disability, but slowly turned into a project about self-acceptance and challenging people’s perception of beauty and disabilities.
When Becky first started online dating she only used photos that showed her face.
‘I really exposed myself but I’m glad that I did because each time I grew in confidence.’ In addition to the topless self-portraits, Becky also created an interactive art piece in which she was painted as a statue, and asked people to cover her with handprints.
Her back was the last place people touched on her body.
PIXIE Lott's New Year's ski trip with fiancé Oliver Cheshire ended on a low note as she arrived back in the UK in a wheelchair after injuring her knee on the slopes.
The singer, 26, looked to be having a great time in the exclusive La Folie Douce Val d' Isère resort in France before a sore twist left her unable to walk.She explained: "Last year it took up the whole year.I learnt so much from doing that but it did take up such a long time so I really just want to focus on music now.‘I have been told many times that I’m pretty but ‘it’s a shame about your back’ which is really disheartening because as much as I wouldn’t change my back, it isn’t something I can change anyway, meaning that if people are put off because of my back then it sometimes leaves me feeling a bit hopeless.’ A big part of the project is responding to that experience, showing everyone that there’s nothing wrong, Becky is entirely capable of dating, and that she’s able to be sexy, too.Which is a powerful concept in itself, as we so rarely see those with disabilities portrayed in a ‘sexy’ way.‘I believed that if I spoke to someone for some time and we honestly had a connection then it wouldn’t make a difference to them once I told them about my disability,’ she says. ’ and ‘one night with me and you won’t be able to get out of that wheelchair.’ ‘It was very disheartening,’ says Becky.